In Life You Don’t Receive What You Want, You Receive What You Need


One of the many things i’ve slowly learned over time is how my prayer are answered – once I understood and appreciated what it was that I was receiving, that is.

Our blessings come in many shapes and forms.  The devoted husband, the loving children, the abundance of family and friends of great quality.  The list is enormous and never ending.

I remember reading this years ago – which is when I finally had an epiphany.  God was giving me everything I needed in my life all along … I just had to open my eyes to see, understand the gift I was being given, and appreciate what it was I needed even if I had not yet figured out what its purpose was – not why I was not getting what I wanted.

Years ago, I asked God to give me a spouse. “You don’t own because you didn’t ask” God said.

Not only I asked for a spouse but also explained what kind of spouse I wanted. I want a nice, tender, forgiving, passionate, honest, peaceful, generous, understanding, pleasant, warm, intelligent, humorous, attentive, compassionate and truthful. I even mentioned the physical characteristics I dreamt about.

As time went by I added the required list of my wanted spouse. One night, in my prayer, God talked to my heart: “My servant, I cannot give you what you want.”

I asked, “Why God?” and God said “Because I am God and I am fair. God is the truth and all I do are true and right.”

I asked “God, I don’t understand why I cannot have what I ask from you?”

God answered, “I will explain. It is not fair and right for Me to fulfill your demand because I cannot give something that is not your own self.

It is not fair to give someone who is full of love to you if sometimes you are still hostile, or to give you someone generous but sometimes you can be cruel, or someone forgiving; however, you still hide revenge, someone sensitive; however, you are very insensitive….”

He then said to me: “It is better for Me to give you someone who I know could grow to have all qualities you are searching rather than to make you waste your time to find someone who already have the qualities you want.

Your spouse would be bone from your bone and flesh from your flesh and you will see yourself in her and both of you will be one. Marriage is like a school. It is a life-long span education. It is where you and your partner make adjustment and aim not merely to please each other, but to be better human beings and to make a solid teamwork.

I do not give you a perfect partner, because you are not perfect either. I give you a partner with whom you would grow together”

Author Unknown

Day after day the world is constantly providing us everything we need in order to have a wonderful and fulfilling life … whether or not you see it, or learn from it is up to you.  When we put our everyday lives into perspective we learn to appreciate the good, the bad & the ugly … each and every item has its purpose in our lives.  Embrace it!


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